Moving forward I will use space in every column to highlight a racial justice organization or resource that we all can support or learn from. This is meant to bring awareness and change to Durango, this state, and this country. Please support however you are able, SURJ or Showing Up for Racial Justice...
Unsurprisingly, a highly contagious and debilitating virus is still actively storming through our communities, making it difficult to touch others — nevermind actually getting to have sex. What the hell is a person to do for the foreseeable future for sex?! How does one navigate health and safety with very real physical and...
Words are incredibly powerful. So powerful they can hurt us more decisively than a sword and bring us together with a simple phrase —
Sí, se puede
Black Lives Matter
Me Too
Hell, no we won’t go
Rise up!
Labels are a tool used to take words and build a community. For people who face...
Let’s circle back around to anal sex.
So often our narrow view of sex as being penis into vagina holds folks back from pleasurable experiences. Sex is defined by the individual and can include ANY activity — kissing, holding hands, intimate conversation, sexting, oral, solo or mutual masturbation, fingering, anal,...
BDSM is not my main swimming pool. It’s an adjacent and smaller swimming pool for the work that I do. There are amazing practitioners and educators whose BDSM pool is bigger and so I make referrals and stick to my generalist pool. As a generalist, I will need to swim in these adjacent, smaller pools so that I can meet clients...
One positive I have found from the stay-at-home order is the opportunity to go braless! It is my favorite, easy pleasure to come home at the end of the day and take off my bra. The release of pressure, the sense of freedom, and the easing of containment. I’m lucky my girls are of moderate size and manageable. My bras don’t...
Disclaimer: Stress and illness can annihilate a person’s libido. If you or your lovers aren’t interested in sex — listen and take a break. Physical touch can help relieve stress and lift our emotional health AND you don’t have to be turned on and doing it all the time. I promote masturbation and sex because that’s what I do....
How do you have sex when practicing social distancing?
The short answer is you don’t have sex.
Of course, the world and how we interact with it is not black and white. It is important to remember that I am not a medical doctor and you should absolutely be listening to doctors, epidemiologists, and other health...
Ever thought about taking it all off on the Internet for money?
At first glance, becoming a webcam model sounds easy – you get in front of your computer, go online, take your clothes off for an audience, and get paid for it. But, there are also a bunch of decisions to make and many hoops to jump through: What equipment...
I was going to write about anal sex for this upcoming column. Instead, as I read the news that Elizabeth Warren has dropped out of the Democratic Primary for President of the United States, I realized there is more that needs to be done to talk about equality, misogyny, privilege, patriarchy, and...
I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue in the throat collapsing during sleep. On top of making me feel tired and awful all the time, sleep apnea is associated with a long list of health complications.
I’m writing you because I’m into very...
How can someone be a sexual being without engaging in sex? In my recent work to debunk myths about heterosexual, cisgender men and their relationship to sex, one of the larger perpetuated myths is that men are “always” sex ready and here’s a pill if that’s not working. My response was nope. Nope. Nope! A man’s worth is not...
